Dealing With Dark Moods Of Freelancing
Dark moods of freelancing have got nothing to do with the times your work isn’t going great or when you don’t turn in even a single project on time.
You might be getting ten business inquiries per day (which for most, if not all, of us is a lot) and traffic to your website may be reaching new heights, dark moods can hit you just out of the blues; you suddenly lose interest in every work-related activity including checking the e-mails, replying to business inquiries, answering business calls, working on existing projects — you don’t even feel like communicating with your present clients.
You just want to watch the TV, read some books, listen to music, lie under the sun, play with the dog, letch at your neighbor’s wife (or husband), talk to someone incessantly, or do anything that is not work-related. It happens.
The dark moods — some call them burnouts, but that’s different — attack you when you start to dislike your work and you don’t realize it. Your work than represents an overwhelming gloom. It becomes a web from which there is no succor.
I think this can happen to any freelancer at some point and there is nothing to worry about, but sometimes this can be — in case it becomes a pattern — devastating for your business. If this mood persists, you can lose your current work and you don’t have any motivation or inclination to get new work.
Since the Internet is the greatest communication tool the humanity has ever experienced it can tarnish your professional image within a few days. And considering that there is so much competition; there are so many competing professionals just waiting to take away work from you, the dark moods of freelancing can prove really costly. Here are a few suggestions to help you cope with or overcome such dark moods.
Work To Live, Don’t Live To Work
While working on your own, sometimes you don’t realize you are working all the time; unlike the regular 9-5 jobber, a freelancer has to put in lots of effort in order to keep getting work. For a freelancer it’s not only about doing the work, it’s also about getting that work and continuously promoting and marketing your services so that you never run out of work.
Things are tougher on the Internet because people can easily compete with you with less efforts than in a more traditional ‘brick and mortar‘ business. Nonetheless, your life shouldn’t turn into a never-ending work schedule. There must only be a fixed number of hours when you should work and the remaining time should be spent either with the family or doing things that make life meaningful — whatever they are.
When there is nothing in your life but just your work — in case that work is not your passion or not exactly what you expected — then sooner or later you begin to dislike or even abhor your work.
Try to work only for a fixed number of hours — it doesn’t have to be eight hours or five hours; decide your work time that causes you least stress and doesn’t put you back financially. Your time also depends on the nature of the service you provide and the type of tools you use. But just remember that the primary purpose of fixing the number of work hours is to get back your ‘real life‘ and use your work only to sustain it. Most of us freelance because we hate the general rut that the regular job represents; by working continuously we magnify that rut with great severity and this in turn triggers the ominous dark moods.
Understand the importance of your work
Sometimes we forget why we work. Whenever you feel that you are losing interest in your professional work just try to remember why you started doing this work in the first place:
- To earn more money in a short span of time
- To provide financial security to your family and yourself
- To be with your loved ones while working
- To generate money for another project
- To raise money for your kids’ education
- To be able to improve your standard of living
- To go on a long holiday
- To raise money for a social cause
- To do what you love to do
- So on and so forth…
When you understand the importance of your work or when you remind yourself what was the initial reason that motivated you so much, you, again, get interested in your work; of course it is a different matter if you realize that the initial reason was a misconception, but that’s another story.
If necessary, write down the reason or the importance on a big piece of paper and stick it somewhere you can easily see it, or create something like a ‘dream board‘. This will certainly rekindle your interest in your professional work.
Track your success
Continuous work without any measure of success or failure can (and probably will) make you lose interest in it. Use some program on your computer or use a paper-chart to track your progress. If it is the financial progress that you want to track then keep adding the money you are earning and observe how it is growing gradually, or rapidly. Also keep track of your expenses.
The numbers and figures moving up and down will keep you constantly charged up. Although I’m not suggesting that you should get obsessed with your goals and objectives and again end up working all the time, some kind of goal-tracking keeps you on the right track, psychologically.
Maintain a healthy environment around you
Make your work environment comfortable and healthy so that you feel good when you work. A neat table and properly stacked papers and files are definitely a good start. If your computer screen is very dirty and so is your keyboard, try to clean them up. Keeping things clean creates more space around you so that you can also keep things that make you feel relaxed and at home.
Spiritually too, cleanliness is quite uplifting. Whether it is old memorabilia or your family photographs, place them on your table so that you can always feel they’re nearn whenever you feel isolated or lost. Also check if there are some other negative factors around you that sap away your energies and make your work uncomfortable.
Feel positive about your work
Always think of your work in a positive way; think about all the wonderful things that happened because of your work. Your work gives you money to pay your bills; it provides you the financial security that many in the world can only dream of; it earns you respect; it keeps a roof over your loved ones.
Learn to love your work and don’t think that it is a burden. Just remember that there are millions of people all over the world who crave to get even a small portion of occupation that you are blessed with. Feel proud of what you do. It all starts with your own thoughts.
Keep learning new skills
Learning new skills is always stimulating, especially if you work as a freelancer. I have noticed that most of the freelancing-related dark moods happen when one feels stuck with the same job whether he or she likes it or not. If you have another skill you can easily start picking up different assignments without affecting your earnings.
In fact I have a personal experience with this — for three years I worked as a web developer and a web designer but then I felt I had no intention of growing vertically in that business. Since I have always loved writing, for four years I have been working as a freelance web content writer and an online copywriter. Then I discovered that having some SEO skills would be an added advantage. So now most of my work involves writing SEO content for my clients who want to improve their search engine rankings and I love my current work.
Automate as much as possible
By automating you can cut down on many activities that needlessly take up lots of time. This way you won’t feel bogged down doing things that are, although necessary, quite basic and boring. Hire a programmer to make you utility programs and macros (or do it yourself) that will considerably reduced your routine work.
Improve your social life
Working on your own doesn’t mean you can’t have a social life. Make lots of friends and go out with them whenever possible. Actively participate in familial occasions. Spend quality time with your spouse if you are married and play games with your kids you do have kids. Have some longer holidays and go on camping or trekking.
Finally the best way of dealing with dark moods is not to get overwhelmed by them and just consider them as a normal freelancing phase that will get over very soon, and it normally does.
Amrit
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Amrit Hallan writes on Content Blog and How To Plaza. He’s got great experience in writing, copywriting, blogging and SEO.
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9 Rockin' Comments
November 6th, 2007 at 8:05 pm
I can totally relate to what you’re saying in this article. I would also add that the guilt you feel about not feeling up to doing the work compounds the problem.
Most of the time, simply recognising it for what it is (a temporary down) is all that’s required to move on. It’s enough to remind you to do the things you talk about in your article.
November 6th, 2007 at 11:42 pm
I recently experienced this and did a few things to get myself motivated again. You covered some of the things I did, but two you did not mention that I found helpful are as follows:
- Take a walk to help clear your head. This is good to do when you’re feeling unmotivated but have a deadline approaching, and you know you have to get back to work.
- Read a book by your favorite author. If you don’t have a book to read, surf the Internet for short stories in genres you enjoy and read those.
Thanks for allowing me to add to your post.
November 6th, 2007 at 11:44 pm
Amrit, you’ve got some good tips here. I especially like your ideas for tracking success. That’s certainly something I need to do more of.
I think you’re 100% right about dark moods being caused by a sneaking dislike of your work, at least, that has been my experience. I’ve found that looking for the cause of that dislike and treating it to be a pretty powerful way of snapping out of a dark mood. Most recently for me, I took on a bunch of extra jobs that probably tripled my workload. Stupid, I know. I found myself struggling even to do the work I needed to do for my long term clients.
Getting help was the answer for me: I always feel better when I have a plan. My husband looked after my son for a few extra hours and helped me finish a task that had been weighing me down. I managed to get other freelancers to partner with me on a few projects. This really set my mind at ease and allowed me to focus again.
Thanks for your tips: I’ll definitely bookmark this post.
Cheers,
Mandy
November 7th, 2007 at 11:10 am
Definitely relate to this post as well.
I always label myself a freelancer by day, marketer at night. Such is the life of a freelancer, eh?
One other thing I’d add is not necessarily the proverbial tough client, but rather the client who wants ugly.
I’m working with a guy right now who’s an absolute joy. Great communication, fast payments on schedule and all those things we wish all clients had. But everything I do for him that, to me, looks really cool he hates.
“Nah, can we go back to that pea green with the pink stripes?”
Oh well, make the client happy!
November 7th, 2007 at 3:03 pm
It’s good to acknowledge that these “dark moods” happen to us all at one time or another! We are not alone…
I’d like to add three additional strategies to your list:
1) Outsource as much as possible. If you can’t automate it, but it has to be done and you just really aren’t good at it or don’t like doing it…hire someone else. They’ll do it faster than you and there is a wonderful light feeling when that dreaded task is off your plate!
2) Pay more attention to the *little* ups and downs of your work day/week. Your work doesn’t have to be a strict 9-5 weekday schedule. If you feel like you’d really rather take a morning nap, do it. You’ll feel refreshed and get the work done faster and with more creativity later. Simply pushing through to get work done, even when you don’t really feel like doing it, drains your energy. Eventually, those energy drains add up and create the big, bad dark mood that are tougher to overcome.
3) Sometimes our dark moods are the result of something that happens to us that makes us sad, anxious, distracted, etc. A friend has an accident, a pet dies, your child gets suspended from school and needs counseling, or you’ve gotten some worrying news about your own health. TELL YOUR CLIENTS what is going on. If you leave them in the dark, they’ll start assuming you are “slacking off”. On the other hand, if you share with them that there is something going on, and you are working to get through it, most (good) clients will be very understanding. You don’t have to go through all the details or even be specific about the issue. You’ll feel less guilty — and have more energy to work through your situation.
To your solo success,
Terri Zwierzynski
November 11th, 2007 at 12:58 am
I am so glad I found this article. It’s awesome! I’m having my “dark time” now and needed these suggestions. Thanks!
November 15th, 2007 at 7:07 am
I like the concept of working to live rather than living to work. It seems to put things into better perspective. After all, which is more important to you, your work or your life?
However, is it not possible to find work that really stimulates and enhances your life. Something that meets with your vales and feels worth while for you?
In the end, are not great people remembered for their work rather than their life?
Doug
http://www.dougwoods.com
December 2nd, 2007 at 12:16 pm
I’m trying to set an end of the workday–a time after which I’m not allowed to work on anything (except perhaps unfinished projects due the next day) or apply for jobs. Probably 9pm. Otherwise I’ve found that I stay up way too late and feel like I don’t have any free time. :/
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